Are You a Perfectionist?
A perfectionist is someone who strives for flawlessness and perfection in various aspects of life.
Some key characteristics of the perfectionist are:
- Perfectionists set excessively high standards for themselves.
- Perfectionists are highly critical of themselves.
- Perfectionists tend to set unreasonably high goals for themselves.
Although I don’t like to admit it, that accurately describes me.
I do espouse the principle of “Embrace Imperfection.” And I truly, firmly believe in that concept. It’s our imperfections that make us authentic and vulnerable, that make us more relatable. I know all of that, but sometimes imperfection is just hard for me to accept.
Currently, I am writing and creating videos for a new class. I am “on camera” for much of the presentation. That means that before I record, I will change out of my comfy-around-the-house clothes into something a bit more appropriate for class. I will pay attention to my hair, and actually put on a little make-up, something I reluctantly and rarely do (the makeup part; I do comb my hair every day).
The other day, I had just finished a 2-hour recording session and was quite proud of myself for getting it done. It was exhausting, and I was ready for a break. Knowing that I had finished a recording session, my husband came into my office with a “Well done!” But then he paused before saying anything else and asked, “Have you been recording like that?”
I thought I looked fairly decent, but I looked down and noticed that the entire right side of my blouse was tucked under.
I immediately deflated. Two hours of recording… ruined because of my blouse?
I remember looking at myself before I started the recording, and I looked fine. How did this blouse thing happen? I still don’t know.
I wondered if I should just “embrace imperfection” and leave the recording as it was, put a disclaimer at the beginning of the video: “Clothes faux pax ahead.” Should I embrace it, with a sense of humor, emphasizing the fact that I am not perfect, nor do I have to be?
You know, if this had just been a class that I was producing for myself, I might have left it as it was and gone with the disclamer. But I am writing this class for a digital scrapbooking site, where it’s not just my image that is important, but theirs also.
So I straightened my collar, hit RECORD, and started all over again.
And even though I did re-record those 2 hours, I have this picture on my desktop as a reminder that embracing imperfections allows us to be authentic and genuine, and encourages us to accept ourselves as we are, recognizing that flaws and mistakes are a natural part of life.
But if you take the class, and notice that my collars are perfectly straightened, I hope that you will think of this story and smile, because you know the real story.