This story is a little long, but worth it.
We have a big bag of balls. Owen and Ella love playing with them but they don’t like cleaning them up…at all. Ella asked to play with the balls and Owen decided he wanted to play with them too. I reminded both kids that if they choose to play with them, it’s their responsibility to clean them up. They agreed.
Fast forward 20 minutes. Owen and Ella were done playing with the balls and I asked that they clean them up. Owen was not a fan. I reminded him that it’s his (and Ella’s) responsibility to clean up the mess they made. Owen started to cry and ran to the couch to (probably) think about how unreasonable I’m being. I told him if he needs a break to calm down he can go to his room and clean the balls when he’s ready. Ella followed.